He came back to the hospital with a thong. The men or the women that married men like the ones referenced in the comments? examples of crazy crap your husbands pulled while you were in labor. The biggest sign that the bloody show has occurred is you may notice a bloody mucus discharge from your vagina. Also I agree with a pp that it should be a conversation on the weekend or when he's realaxed and preferably sober. He hesitated and then said, I ate it all. I was so busy being in labor that I failed to notice he was munching on my all my snacks! I was also in the middle of a contraction when he said that. Seriously. Thank goodness he was great the rest of the time or Id be a widow, not a divorcee. Then I asked him to wake our 3-year-old and get him ready for daycare. He finally comes back as I was about to go investigate (and by investigate, I mean cause bodily harm) and explained that he had food stuck in his teeth so he had been trying to floss it out!!!!!! Michelle, My husband took a conference call on the way to the hospital. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. He asked me to please give him a signal before I had a contraction (and they were, oh, 90 seconds apart) so he could mute the call in time. Then 14 hours and a baby boy later, he called to let everyone at the office (a family business) know the good news. The tank was on empty so we stopped at the gas station. It's annoying, but it's not like he sits down and pounds hard alcohol or something. If your husband is an alcoholic, the more you know about the disease, the better prepared you will be to deal with it. Bud Grace And Frankie Weight Gain . Our son was born in the morning. I was a journalist for five years. I will never know. Im not sure where to start with my story and it has been 20 years and fresh in my mind. for fear that he would pass out. I come into the living room and give her a kiss. I guess you were right. You think? Or speaking to each other in limited statements, such as Jack just shat his pants or the toilet is blocked. The husband is now a soon-to-be-ex-husband. My nurse who had me pushing literally would not let me catch my BREATH because she told me to push every 10 seconds..for 2 WHOLE HOURS. My husband stopped drinking the first week in April. How do you know he will take you seriously if you tell him you are uncomfortable with the amount he is drinking? I think I may have got lucky! Most of the responses ignore the real issues, blame it on men being stupid, or just excuse his behavior. He complained he was sick and went to the ER. My guess is that most husbands sort of enjoy seeing their wives suffering a little bit, especially if it was the wife nagging to have the child. These are hilarious! We had attended Lamaze together and learned the stages of labor. When I called him an hour later because I was 9 centimeters he said he was at Sams buying Tupperware. Know your own limitations. This isnt a birth story, but rather sadder. In my hospital bed. After the haircut I assume we will be leaving for the hospital and then he informs me he needs to take a shower to get the hair off. Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. I had read a list of what to pack on a baby website. You can also ask them any questions you may have and share your experiences with them. So I went about my day normally and really thought something was going on around 3pm. Then she told me to leave. This is why it is important for you to encourage him to seek professional help for alcohol addiction treatment if he seems hesitant to do so. A simple rule for when to go to the hospital for labor is the 5-1-1 rule. of theirs under any circumstances. Reach out to rescue them only when they seek out help. Even if they "handle their liquor well" they are drunk at that point. "Put. He's in sales and always has social work meetings where drinks are served, too, which doesn't help. She told him and he freaked out, made himself puke (totally tmi) and then was a paranoid mess the whole drive to the hospital. . My doctor walked in while he was talking, looked at me still laying on the delivery bed, and told my husband he should probably take care of that later. It concerned me, I spoke to him about it, and he stopped. When in labor, every woman becomes bitchy for the reason that she is in tremendous pain, moron! He's turning 30 - his birthday isn't some magical day where responsibilities don't apply to him I'm currently TTC and my husband already knows that he isn't getting drunk during my entire final month (36 weeks on) unless there is a plan for someone else to drive me. Pregnant . Little things like uploading a profile picture make the community a better place. She told you how big he was going to be. I know that if I tell him I am uncomfortable with the amount he is drinking then I know he would take me seriously. With our fourth, he was perfect and even had to help deliver the baby!! We went for a lot of walks. What is the typical personality of an alcoholic? Well, it was getting late, and his sister called to see how things were going, and he smiled affectionately at me and told her that the contractions werent too bad yet. If my DH drank that much regularly and refused to stop he would be on his own. We were on our way to the hospital by 6:30am. I was so exhausted. All I could do at that point was laugh. I had nothing with me when we went in, I didnt even consider the chance that I would be having a baby that night. Supporting a woman in labor is an incredibly exciting and important role. A woman seduces her husband at Halloween party and then finds out he switched costumes with someone else. But hey, at least the rage is not being maintained. of the issue and will look for a solution. Exercise. -Kate, Right after my c-section, my husband asked the nurse in the recovery room if he could just lay down on the floor, saying I promise I wont be in the way. Once we got to the hospital, though, he was great. Since our house is on the way to the hospital, we stopped to get our bags. I beleive that 4th pregnancy has got to be my last. I cleaned the house again. I said we didnt have that kind of time that Id gone from 5cm-8cm in 35 minutes. Creative Skirt reserves the right to use all submitted photos, LOL, you sound like my wifes ex. Promote a faster and healthier labor. So, instead of trying to take control of everything, just wait for them to accept that they have a problem and need help. my parents always had a rule never to argue in front of me or my younger brother.. Husband, I swear by my ugly faded hospital gown, I will end you. Well of course the pain increased dramatically and the nurse, watching the monitor, kept commenting on it soothingly, so I figured hubby was right there with me. My husband was beyond perfect. The ban has since been lifted: Following an outcry from expectant parents, medical professionals, and doulas, Governor Cuomo signed an executive order on March 28 requiring all New York hospitals to allow one person to accompany someone who is pregnant through labor and delivery. PCOS and Hypothyroidism- Successful IUI's- May 2012 and October 2014. Look up the options available to you, enlisting help if you need backup, and have a hopeful, serious plan ready so there's no excuse for him to say no. Holy fuuk. He went to smoke a cigarette before the midwife came to see me,and by the time he got back, I was already pushing. Life with an alcoholic husband is tough. Camera. It can vary widely. Once labor begins, it can take between 10 to 24 hours (or more) to progress through the three stages of labor before your baby is born. Pet Behavior. Jack Morley, the giant baby, was born just after 8am. He told the registering nurse, my room nurse, my midwife, my doula, ANYONE who had ears our WHOLE life story. He thinks he's being 110% supportive, and says he will, but just drinking when I could go into labor any day is NOT supporting IMO. The birth of our child is not about him, it's about me and the baby. Im sure there are a ton of great husbands/partners out there. Jackass. Seriously, OP, the issues surrounding labour should be amongst the least of your concerns here. Things start with a small incident and can lead to bigger uncontrollable incidences that will only bring shame to you and your family. I'm guesing it's pretty important. I went into labor at 10:30am Saturday morning and, this being my first child, I didnt know it. Then, after I finally pushed my baby out (an hour and a half of pushing), he complained about being exhausted. I finally woke him up to help me time them, since they were getting more intense. Hopefully our midwife keeps him in line. But he's probably young enough where that can all be avoided if he changes his patterns NOW. DH managed to get to the hospital after his work in time to give me a quick kiss and be kicked out for delivery. Thanks. I mean, my husband was blotto, passed out beside me. Needless to say, he was NOT happy about that statement but I don't care. After Amy Lam prematurely went into labor and gave birth to their baby at home, her husband, Gilbert Kwok, thought the worst was over. The sooner it's identified, the better. It may be harsh but is needed. Also, per Davidson, never, ever wear open-toed shoes to the hospital. From funny to divorce-worthy to I-would-totally-understand-if-your-husband-turned-up-dead,here are 28 of my favorite examples of Crap Husbands Pull While Their Wives are in Labor. (More on my adorable new nephew later this week.). Into the car it went. It really hurts. I replied, What the fuck is wrong with you? These are only a few of the symptoms that a person may have a problem with drinking. And the idea that being in labor will sober up a buzzed husband is absurd, it may make him seem sober but I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that he'd blow over the limit (or really close to it) on a breathalyzer test--that's a great way to get to L&D, in a police cruiser while your husband goes to the drunk tank. You might also explain that it's his baby too, he may want to remember the event. So say he is out for a work meeting until 6, and he had 2 glasses of wine. When he got home, he dropped his phone in a stock pot that was soaking in the sink. He does not drink every night, but just a handful of times a year. Haha Im going to have to share these stories with my boyfriend so he knows not to mess up next time. ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** I gave birth in a Cambodian hospital that, well lets say was set up with top notch 1950s style equipment. But when he does, he is belligerant and can't stop and just a few. It also happened to be the night of our annual street party. I had a hellish time trying to breastfeed my newborn son (turns out he had a tongue thrust issue and didnt latch on until he was 5 weeks old ) and in the middle of the hospital room, amidst lactation consultants and even a sucking specialist , my husband announces : Honey, let me show you, this is how you do it. I have been with my husband for 10 years, married for four, and he has a drinking problem.We met in our early 20s and started our relationship long-distance.I relocated to the UK and we moved in . Nausea and vomiting, diarrhea, and an overall feeling of being unwell. . Thanks for the laughs though! Promote a quicker postpartum recovery. Okay. My mom always tells the story of when she was in labor with my sister, on Thanksgiving Day, and somewhere around 20-so hours of labor my dad ate a full Thanksgiving dinner, turkey drumstick and all, right in front of her. I would be concerned about YH having 5 drinks in one night on a regular basis. I'll talk to him tomorrow. When I was in labor with our son my wife was AMAZING, a true hero. With our second things went pretty well. So I called him to tell him to hurry and get there. She thought she had just peed her pants, but it kept happening everytime she stood upso off we went to the hospital, and she was definately in labor. When my contractions were less than 2mins apart, I told my husband we needed to leave. With my 1st son, my husband wanted to take a shower before we left for the hospital. So, feeling AOK, we walked up the hill to the party, socialised and I left Phil to continue cooking sausages and shooting the shit and took the other two kids home around midnight. My hubby is a talker, too. Mortifying. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your spouse can help both of you cope with the emotional effects of recovering from addiction. "She went into labour.": she started giving birth (generally means her waters broke or she otherwise started experiencing labour pains) we're focusing on the moment the labour started (moment in time, not duration) "She was in labour for 3 hours.": we're focusing on the length of the labour (duration, not moment in time) good luck! He went home to sleep in our bed so he could get some rest. Alcoholics don't just drink hard liquorWTF? She arranged transportation to the hospital from our neighbors. (I am not worried about a ride though because we have a ton of family and friends that could take me in a pinch.). However, if you are determined to recover from it and stay sober, you can do it as long as you stay strong and focused. I guess I had it pretty good! When my DH was starting up his business last year we were going through huge financial stress he would often have 2-3 beer over a day. -Amber, My husband made me wait for him to finish watching Gladiator after my water broke. -Jessica, My husband unabashedly complained about a canker sore while I was in labor. To help you more to understand, Is my husband an alcoholic?, listed below are also some pointers on how to live with an alcoholic husband. Well, setting up limits for them. Time. Sept. 28, 2016. Needless to say..while gasping for breath, I told him to shut up. Woodward said the labor was moving fast and about 15 minutes later, the baby had arrived, even before paramedics had arrived on the scene. Unfortunately, real life doesnt always abide by my blogging schedule and sis gave birth last Friday night! Its real life, and you mustnt give up so easily. I don't know what kind of birth you're planning, but the Bradley books (Husband-Coached Childbirth and Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way, IIRC) are very insistent on how important it is that the husband be there to support, etc. For my last birth and for this one I have been an hour away from the hospital. Have you ever discussed this with friends and inquired about how much their husbands drink? My husband decided the ideal time to invite his parents into the labor & delivery room was when I was laying spread eagle, everything out for the world to see, being stitched up by the doctor after our son was born. And please feel free to add your husbands own egregious efforts below. Start by selecting which of these best describes you! He said he felt so guilty and was terrified he was going to get pulled over. Luckily, my own husband was a peach! In his sleep. With my second I was in labor through the night, his dad kept asking if he could go home to sleep because I didnt need him there, he missed his bed and the hospital staff was disrupting his sleep. I was two weeks overdue, had been induced and then sent home because nothing was happening. Medicated: Yes. husband drunk when i went into labor. . When I was in labor with my second, I waited at home until I couldnt stand it anymore because I didnt want to be in the hospital for hours in labor like I was with my first. While bringing the note over they saw his truck and had to go bang on our bedroom window to wake my stupid husband up. My husband said that I should be more in pain, but I convinced him that we should still go to the hospital to get it checked, and that the worst thing that could happen was to get sent home. I walked up and down the stairs a few times to see if it was real labor. His response was, OOPS! When it comes to how to live with an alcoholic husband, try not to make any major decisions without getting input from your spouse or partner first. Last week, I made a simple request on the Mommy Shorts fanpage. -Lucy, About 30 minutes after our son was born (a full 24 hours of labor) my husband told me he was going to head home for a bit because he was exhausted. So I stand behind some, I never said all, of these comments are just bitchy. He is trying to lose some weight before the LO gets here. When they called my room at 3 am to go nurse her, my husband declined to go with me because he was just so tired after everything that happened that day. So, that's the fvcked up part. When the guy on the other end asks so, how are you doing? because he probably heard my whimpering/low moaning in the background, my husband replies well my wife is actually in labor and were on the way to the hospital I think the guy on the phone call was speechless at first, and then smartly ended the conversation so my husband couldI dont know focus on driving through the blizzard and getting his wife to the hospital!?! He tried to Mapquest the directions while driving down the highway and almost killed us. (Hopefully it won't have to go there but if the nice and logical angle doens't work you may have to come on a little strong) IMO. He was only slightly better with our third. It is also important to seek professional. It is mean and very insensitive to the child. When she left, my husband says to me, very sweetly and earnestly, Ive had many epidurals, and I just want you to know, it doesnt feel ANYTHING like a bee sting. Now for Baby #2I have pictures of Dad sitting in my hospital bed holding our daughter, chatting on a phone headset. Unbeknownst to her, it was contractions. Oh, yeah, I am sure he will slow it down. LOL, I love that Firefly episode! Hubby went home to get a good nights rest the night I got induced. Both those incidents still come up at family get togethers. My husband devours some of the Popeyes chicken and then comes back in and sits with me and then falls asleep. Or do you let fly in situ? This happened to my friend. I would go along with the game, keep a straight, often giddy face and say nothing. He begrudgingly told me hed hurry. Most nights he drinks to the point of stumbling, and not . Thanks for being an a@#$%&*! Men dont get it because the dont know what we go through with our bodies. However, this might not be a good decision, ever. The *only* reason I left the room when she was in labor was to go to the bathroom. When my nurse came in to reposition me I said, can you please wake my husband up his snoring is driving me nuts She did, and he said, well who can get any sleep around here with that beeping(referring to the sound of our sons internal fetal heart rate monitor) It was driving me nuts so I put the pillow over my head!. There was a family business. This isnt going to happen. To this day I cant even enjoy an episode of Duck Dynasty without wanting to smother him. When I told my boyfriend it was time to go, he said he needed to take a shower and shave. Yes, by all means continue defending your drunk husband because he's dumb and he has to drink because of his job. 5 drinks a night sounds like a problem bigger than just worrying about having a sober ride to the hospital. It was one of the biggest events in . If the birth of his child is not enough to deter him from drinking for a few weeks, then he has a serious problem. Among the no nos are the one that forbids his mom and dad and other men to come in during this private time and looking at your birth area. When your partner needs help, they will reach out to you. So when I couldnt reach him for 40 min, I freaked out. fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen All I am saying is that it will probably work itself out in the end. And never forgot it. He called the hospital and they said theyd call him as soon as anything happened. It's your body's way of protecting your baby . The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. He would still have had alcohol in his system and in hindsight, a cab or ambulance would have been a better mode of transport. However, Phil and I are pretty much the masters of the silent fight. I dont thnk so, Omgi cant stop laughing at the thong.Im in tears here Okayjust to show another sidebecause I love this storywith my third we had some complications and had an emergency c section. It might have been when he was relaying the story about how tired he was and how the day seemed to drag on forever. -Carrie, After I finally agreed to an epidural, the nurse explained that it would feel like a quick little bee sting. Individuals with alcoholism may have a number of behavioral and emotional characteristics, including a lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. You notice a mucusy discharge or "bloody show". The 25-year-old Los Angeles Rams wide receiver and his wife, Samaria Jefferson, welcomed their second baby together on Sunday evening, when Samaria went into labor during the Super Bowl, which Van . If I was to go into labor when he was drinking he wouldn't be there and that's that. Don't do it right after work when he's looking forward to sitting and unwinding. Imagine youre married to an alcoholic husband who drinks daily and beyond the limit, only to create a nuisance later. A 'habit' of drinking more than 5 drinks in a night, thinking that he 'deserves' to unwind however he wants, these are signs that he dependent on alcohol. Sure having a bonfire or watching a big game with the buddies and having that many once and a while is no big deal, but being unable, or unwilling, to stop drinking heavily on a regular basis should be a huge red flag. Also, he decided at some point that the contraction monitor was a better gauge of my pain than I was: Oh, that one wasnt so bad. I nearly ripped his head off. One 2013 study, found that even . You are not going to want to have this conversation, but you have to. Or a little bit of both? Whats worse is that his parents brought him back to the hospital drunk as a skunk. My wife was not pleased. . Get weekly updates on baby and your body. I dont want to deal with your stink and neither do the doctors and nurses! I don't know how or when you've approached him about this, but I think if you haven't you need to make sure it is on the weekend when he's had time to relax. So, the advice here is to keep away from the situation and let things happen. April 2011. Sexuality has nothing to do with a persons character or supportiveness. She all but collapses into my arms exhausted to the point she couldn't even walk to the bedroom. Im late to the party but here is a story for you Not only is he really annoying when buzzed, which will piss me off and make my pain and anxiety higher, but he can't drive! You have a choice as an adult to enable and accept his behavior, your innocent baby does not. I think there should be another thread about crap husands pull after the baby is born. This can help you deal with issues and challenges more easily and effectively. After being in labor all day and delivering at 9:00 at night we got almost no sleep. That he won't stop for a few weeks while you approach the end of your pregnancy (or forever) is even MORE indicative of that dependency and addiction. I folded those clothes some more. We asked around and found 10 different ways women knew they were in labor. 7 min read. He said okay, proceded to go hook up the horse trailer, load his horses and tell me that he was going to a branding. And to all the posters making excuses: it doesn't matter if it's beer or liquor. I. What would make a soon-to-be-dad not realize the birth of his child is a momentous occasion? These are hilarious! Guys like you make it possible for guys like me to find great women and kids. She just had another baby and he quit drinking 4 weeks before her due date just to be safe. I was always sad that I was alone when my sweet son was born. I push for over two hours and my daughter was born at 6:55 am. Why do I remember the date so well? 20 Tips to Deal With Unresolved Issues in a Relationship, 10 Signs Being in a Relationship With an Alcoholic Partner, A therapist or counselor will be able to help him, 10 Ways to Support Your Spouse in Addiction Recovery, 15 Ways to Improve Emotional Support in Your Relationship, Individuals with alcoholism may have a number of behavioral and emotional characteristics, including a lack of self-confidence and. He was about 4 minutes from the hospital but after 20 minutes he stillhadnt shown up. Theyve been divorced almost 20 years and she still holds that one over him! I laughed out loud at several of these and realized that men just want to minimize the birthing. Every birthday growing up I heard about the stupid thing my Dad did when I was born. A. One suggestion was to bring food just in case I delivered in the middle of the night and the cafeteria was closed (everyone said Id be STARVING after delivery). Mortified. Women need to put their foot down. It was about 11:30 am when we finally made it to the hospital (which was on the other side of town) and after being examined by the nurse, was told I was going to have my child later that evening (at about 6 pm)! This. "I finally snapped and said that I wasn't going to name my child an ugly name that I don't like for the sake of a woman that doesn't even like me," she writes. When you sent the call out, you said husbands, and I totally forgot what my dad did the night I was born. My brother and father arrived at around 10pm and my brother volunteers to go out and get some food for my husband. This, I really think that you need to convey how important it is to you and the baby, then make sure that he realizes how serious you are that you NEED a coach to help get you through this and if he is to drunk to do it then you will find someone else and he will be relegated to the waiting room. He almost passed out and had his own team of nurses and MY midwife helping him. -Carrie, My husband rested the magazine he was reading on my legs while I lay dying WITHOUT an epidural. He did later apologize. Delivery type: Vaginal that progressed to C-section. The longer you hide your head in the sand the bigger the issue will get. It wasnt my normal doctor and she didnt believe me when I said that my four weeks early baby was estimated at around 9lbs 14 OAS two days prioryeah, I have huge kids, no gestational diabetesanyway So, she ignored that and made me incisions too small and couldnt get the baby out, despite the epidural it was PAINFUL and after ten minutes of yanking (not kidding) and vacuuming and RIPPING MY INCISION TO THE SIDE, I was screaming and crying. Epidurals are the pain relief of choice in the U.S. but that may be changing. I had just had twins by emergency c-section, 6 weeks early. A man can metabolize 2 drinks a day. So, I felt it and tried to ignore it. I wish men weren't so stupid about some things. She was great because she understood. Andhe bowled the only perfect game of his entire life! yep, i paint with a broad ass brush. I am not supporting buzz driving at all - but, it is amazing how much a woman in labor will sober up a man. but this isn't just within my relationships i'd say it's with friendships and working environment - REALLY envy those that have any guts to say what they feel. since the 4th month. I stayed at home as long as I could (we live 5mins drive from the hospital). My husband and the doctor talked football the entire time I was pushing.
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